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Victim To Victorious Break Free From Domestic Violence Are you tired of being the underdog? Are you sick of walking on eggshells all the time? Are you afraid for your life? Are you afraid for your children? If the answer to any of those questions is yes, then we have some help for you. Dr. MacKay is a survivor of domestic violence and has the knowledge and empathy to help break you free from the brainwashing that has kept you from living your authentic life. She guides you to go inside and rediscover who you are in order to detach from the power of your abuser. The more whole a person becomes the less tolerance there is for inappropriate behavior. Self-care does not allow abuse from others. Self-love allows one to thrive in beauty. Isn't it time you gave yourself a break? This program consists of a guided imagery MP3, and both Part I and Part II of Dear Sisters, Break Free From Domestic Violence. The audio download is a voice of encouragement and empowerment. Take a relaxing break and be guided on a path leading to freedom and peace. Listen to this recording over and over again till you feel it in your bones. Part I of the eBook, if you haven't already read it, is a plea for women to leave their abusive relationship. It speaks of life becoming worse by staying in a controlling household. It speaks of death of the spirit and it touches on the lives of the children learning the same behaviors. It also speaks of freedom, of peace and beauty, of taking back one's life. It shows hope. It is a voice of encouragement that life can be different. It says that others have survived. Others have thrived. And you can too. Part II is a workbook with a series of twenty-two exercises given over at least twenty-two days and is designed for self-exploration. Even in the best of circumstances, women have difficulty knowing who they are. These daily suggestions invite learning about the authentic self. They are about paying attention to how life is lived or how it is not lived. They are about finding the heart, the love. Until woman realizes she has a right to be alive, she will always give her life away to another. Until she realizes it is her duty to live life fully, she will tolerate, put up with, deny her circumstances and live only half a life or no life at all. Everyone needs some help breaking free of domestic abuse. Now is the time to make your choice. Change your mind, change your life. Let guided imagery help you become victorious. $37.00 for the program Make sure to receive your other MP3 download by submitting your email address at the top of this page. If that is too risky, email from the contact information to the left and request it. This program was deliberately priced inexpensively to assure that those living under strict financial control would hopefully still be able to download it. If you have not already read the first part of this book, you can either download it from www.DomesticViolenceHelpsSite.com or receive it as part of this program to further help you. Happy-Mind International

Victim No More

Woman hopes to mitigate domestic violence problem

Break free.

If the mission statement of Dr. Karen MacKay can be pared down to two words, they are these.

. . .MacKay lends her expertise as a therapist to help women heal themselves and escape the often psychological means of control that abusers use on their victims.

"My aim is to get women to take charge and get out of the relationship," she said.

Her Victim to Victorious workshop is crafted out of more than simply a well-founded desire to do good. It is carved from the bitter hardship of MacKay's own experience at the hands of a batterer, an experience that took her completely by surprise. Her tailspin through the vicious cycle of domestic abuse occurred despite the fact that she was a professional, educated and independent woman.

Still hesitant after all this time to talk about it, MacKay said she learned firsthand what is was like to be imprisoned and brainwashed. At last, she said, she understood why women couldn't "just leave." It was not merely about fists and kicks, but about belittling and control.

MacKay is basing her work on the "things I started doing to get my soul back." She hopes to use her personal journey from a victim to a survivor to be more vocal about the problem of domestic abuse--a problem that affects 25% percent of American women and 8 percent of American men, according to the Center for Disease Control's statistics.

Other grim statistics include the 2 to 4 million women who are victims of serious abuse each year. MacKay reports that 1 million abused women seek medical attention for injuries and that half of female homicide victims in the United States are killed by an intimate partner.

MacKay has also written and illustrated a softbound book entitled, Dear Sisters, Break Free From Domestic Violence. She was attempting to "make sense of what I was in," she said.

The book is deliberately written in a simple format to allow for a quick, accessible read. MacKay said that she was hungry for information that would help her overcome what she had suffered. What she found instead were books that were too intellectual, overly technical, or simply too long.

Too often, battered women do not have either the time or the freedom to read anything. MacKay designed her book as "waiting room" material," something that a woman could pick up in a doctor's office and browse through.

MacKay said her ultimate goal would be to stop abuse altogether. Part of achieving this is helping victims of abuse become healthy and whole enough to refuse to put up with violence from their partners. It also involves the victims overcoming the belief that the abuse is somehow caused by their behavior.

"Dear Sisters," MacKay wrote, "I am like you. I am one of you, a sister joined by violence. . . .

Dear sisters, break free."

The Cortez Journal by Katharhynn Heidelberg,

Plan if you can. Otherwise, run like mad.

1. Establish a place with a trusted person to keep necessary items. If that isn't possible, find a hiding place or open a safe deposit box.

2. It is important to open a post office box. Make address changes for important mail or anything you may not want your partner to know about.

3. Unless you are planning to leave in the very near future, you may want to open a savings account, in your name, to begin saving money for yourself. Regardless you should try to have enough cash in your pocket or with a friend to take care of your immediate needs. Sometimes you can't get escape money, but do your best.

4. If you are able, get a credit card in you name. It could come in handy for an emergency.

5. Clothing for you and your children should be available somewhere.

6. Make a set of all your necessary keys and keep them stashed outside your home where you will have quick access to them. If you are planning to take a car, keep a key on you or hidden where you can get it quickly and safely.

7. Make copies of all important documents like birth certificates, titles to vehicles, mortgage papers, checking and savings accounts, financial records, insurance or anything else you might want or need. Making a list of addresses and phone numbers is helpful too.

8. If you have treasures and other valuables you don't want to leave behind, take them to a storage unit or to a friend's to keep for you. Don't be obvious by taking items that will be noticed. The idea is to be wise and safe. Your life is far more important than any material goods.

9. Locate women's shelters and speak with someone about available help. If you have to get away quickly, you'll know what to do and where to go. It's very nice to have support especially if you've been isolated and away from your family and friends.

10. This list is a start. Think of what else you might need for yourself and your children. Unless your partner is out of town and you can take what you want safely, I suggest not worrying about all the stuff you might be leaving behind. You're in a dangerous, hostage situation and your life is far more important than what is replaceable.

Be Prepared and more importantly Be Safe!